It does get better; you will experience joy again.
A senior friend, who has been widowed at an early age once told me that one day I would go twenty-four hours without thinking of my loss. I told them they were crazy. They weren't crazy; they were right. At first, I felt guilt, then elation.
God is the source of your hope and joy. Believe these words of Jesus in John 16: "I tell you the truth, you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy" (v. 20).
Jesus continued: "A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.
"So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy" (vv. 21-22).
One of the most destructive choices you could consider as you deal with grief and loss is the possibility of suicide. Although your motivation may be to end the pain, you will actually inflict a greater pain on those you leave behind.
There was pain so deep that I didn't know if I was going to be able to get up sometimes. I was like, 'Lord, I don't think I can go another twenty-five years or however long I may have on this earth. I don't think I can handle this amount of pain.'"
Nobody knows what it is like until you have to go through it.
These emotions are normal, but if you actually begin to form a plan to end your life---if you feel it is worthless to continue or that you cannot handle the pain any longer---you need to call your pastor or a doctor immediately. You need professional support for this kind of crisis.
Your friends cannot take the place of professional counselors, but they will be a support for you. Many people love you dearly and would give anything to reach out and help you.
Remember, though, that other people cannot know what you are thinking or feeling unless you open up and tell them. Reach out to other people, continue to build relationships, and do not close yourself off. Let people love you even when they don't understand you.
Jesus has promised you hope and healing for the future. You will receive and be reminded of this hope through your relationships with other people as you let God's love flow through them to you. Let God minister His love to you today.
John 16:27 NLT
"The Father himself loves you dearly"
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